Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about how social media can completely change the way I view myself on a daily basis. Sometimes it’s hard being a member of the fashion industry because in the blink of an eye you can get engulfed in social pressure and the almost inevitable tendency to compare yourself to others. I’ll wake up in a perfectly great mood and then BAM, suddenly I see a photo on Instagram or Facebook and I’m wondering why my life isn’t as “beautiful” as the image I’m staring at. I even see this happening to those around me. Friends will pull up photos of other girls saying things like “She’s so pretty, why can’t I be like her?” or of course the oh so typical girl comment “I wish I was as skinny as her.”
Our culture seems so transfixed on the concept of “beauty” that we loose touch of what actually makes life beautiful. The natural world around us beams with beauty, while it would appear that our “phone worlds,” can make us feel that beauty is unattainable.
This is something I constantly struggle with, and it has made me evaluate my career path countless times. As a fashion blogger and designer it can be difficult to separate myself from the materialism that comes along with the industry. I realize that I may even feed into the system occasionally, which remains one of my top concerns when deciding how to portray myself to the world via each blog post.
When it comes down to it, I deeply believe that society needs a movement that transitions the popular tendency to constantly compare yourself to others, into a focus on beauty in terms of happiness, confidence and learning to love yourself.
This post goes out to anyone who has ever felt insufficient in life because they don’t match up to what society deems as “beautiful.” It goes out to any woman, young or old, who has spent hours comparing themselves to others and burning with desire to be just like them. Remember that you ARE beautiful.
If there’s one thing I have learned throughout the years, it’s that happiness and love are the most beautiful concepts in the world, and no amount of self inflicted criticism will ever get you to a place where you can accept those concepts into your life.
Why waste time engulfed in your phone world when there’s a whole dimension of beauty and happiness waiting for you in the real physical world that surrounds you every day?
Go outside and take a walk. Think about your dreams, passions and aspirations and then go out and make them happen. Smile. Don’t let people be mean to you and NEVER compare yourself to others.
Because after all, the best journey through life is the one that leads you to happiness, and happiness comes from within, it’s not something you can buy or wish to magically appear, no matter what society tells you.
BIKINI by the ever so amazing BETTINIS